Occasionally, I just have to share what’s on my mind. Over the last couple of years, our family has suffered our share of losses. I have not shied away from sharing about our grief and what we have learned. We are slowly learning to cope with all that loss means. I have to say that one of the biggest pieces I have taken away from loss is that no one really cares or remembered what you accomplished. While accomplishments can gain respect and applause, it’s the way you make others feel that will be remembered. A man that does great works in his lifetime but does not treat others well, is not remembered in high regard. Those that treat others with kindness, compassion, and love will be remembered for that no matter what successes they may or may not have met with. I guess I am just trying to realize that my kiddos will remember when I was grumpy or short tempered before they remember that I did well on a project. I am trying to put in check the moment to moment ways I make those around me feel. It is always relatively easy to begin and end the day on a high note. But the moments sandwiched in between can be challenging. I plan to post this in my home where I can have a gentle reminder about all that is truly important. 
My husband brought me these tulips. What I remember is how I felt when he did that. I felt loved. Case in point. Thanks for letting me share. Enjoy your day.
This was so beautiful and so very true! Thanks for this important reminder sweet friend!
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Thanks for this today.
Good reminder, sweets. It is so hard to keep perspective sometimes with little ones running you ragged, but you're right – they'll remember how we make them feel. xo
Such a great reminder – it's so easy to get caught up in the day to day tasks and rushing around trying to get everything done. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Well said, Courtney! It's tough to remember that from time to time, so keeping it in the back of our minds is so important.
Well said, and so so true. I too, lost my brother as an adult. He was 25 and I was 27. 5 years later, there is still a missing puzzle piece, and everything is always a little bittersweet. He never met my little boy or watched me walk down the aisle, and I always, always miss him. Thank you for the reminder – its easy to lose sight of that in DIY blog-land.
so true. thanks for the reminder.
Great reminder! It's so easy to forget things like this in our hectic day to day lives.
I totally agree Courtney! I have told both of our girls this time and time again, especially when they were going through high school. Being Homecoming Queen, Prom Queen, the "popular" kid…yes, seems important at the time but years down the road what people remember is how you treated them. I was fortunate enough to be able to share this first hand with both of the girls-3 years AFTER our oldest graduated from high school (she was a well respected cheerleader, well liked), my husband and I were at our local warehouse store checking out. The young man who was our cashier asked, "are you by chance Elizabeth (insert last name)'s mom?" "Why yes."…"Elizabeth went to middle and high school with me, she was always so kind and thoughtful. Please tell her hello from me." Case in point! Thanks for sharing Courtney!!!
Such great perspective and advice. I'll remember this too. Thinking of you! xo
Thank you for that reminder…and don't be so hard on yourself. Carpe the moments when you can, but don't put pressure on yourself to be Suzy Sunshine the whole diem. Little kids are hard, parenting is hard, and you are hands down an amazing mother. Your brightness shines through even when you may have a grumpy moment or a crappy day. Tell them you're sorry, and try again the next day. I promise you the sum of your outstanding moments will exponentially outweigh the challenging ones. Hugs dear friend.
I hear you. The day to day can be difficult, and challenging, and frustrating, but there are always pockets of the good, the amazing, the beautiful, and loved. Hold onto the pockets 🙂
This could not have come at a better time. My mom is in the hospital and she also has dementia. My patience have been tried this last week. Thank you so much for this. I am leaving for the hospital right now. I will take these words with me.
It is amazing how, sometimes we can write a post and not even realize the people we touch or help. You did that today. Thank you!
Sweet thing. I feel nothing but joy when your name pops up on my phone or inbox!!!! xooxo
Love this!!
Very true! You make people feel special Courtney- you give them your undivided attention.
That is too true, there is actually a Mya Angelou that says "People will forget what you say and do…but they will never forget how you made them feel". I really try hard to remember that, especially on days where I can tell my kiddos need a little extra attention and I feel less than inclined to give it (c; And I totally agree with Megan, you are one of those truly amazing blog buddies that always makes me feel special and cared about, you are amazing!
This is such a good reminder and so true. When my mom puts flowers on my dresser every time I come home I feel loved and thought of. Thanks for the reminder to care for others 🙂
Absolutely beautiful…and I could not agree more. Love the photo.
This is beautiful Courtney and so true. Thank you for sharing this.
Beautifully said, Courtney! I love your perspective on life and living intentionally!
Beautifully said, Courtney! I love your perspective on life and living intentionally!